‘Somewhere in the archives of crudest instinct is recorded the truth that it is better to be endangered and free than captive and comfortable.’
Tom Robbins

Are we really comfortable where we are in life, or are we just settling because we don’t believe we can get any better? Most people I have met try to portray that they are comfortable, yet once they really open up it seems there are many things that they wish they could achieve or attain. It’s then evident by their constant disappointment that they are quite uncomfortable. Every time someone asked me how I was, I would reply with the words ‘not bad’ or ‘okay’. For a long time I thought I was lying to myself, until I finally had the feeling of being great. Life is made up of decisions we make, and accepting a ‘not bad’ or even ‘okay’ life is the case for most. People rarely admit when they aren’t doing too well, and believe that they can take cover behind lying to others and themselves. There is one fact we have to acknowledge: we can’t run and we can’t hide from ourselves, because everywhere we go, we’re there.

The hard reality is that most people aren’t truly happy with where they are in life. They submit to beliefs that have made them feel that it is the most they can be, and accept a life that never fulfils them. It’s quite upsetting because I know the exact feeling, and I also know how it feels to be on the other side. This is one of the main reasons for dedicating my life to sharing it. The first thing I would say is that facing it, rather than running, is the first step towards change. The questions we asked in the last chapter are a great start. They all lead us to a point of acknowledgement. We seem to be blinded to the powerful part of that word which is ‘acknowledgement’. We can have all the knowledge in the world, have ten university degrees, travelled the globe, or know how to speak five different languages, but if we don’t have true knowledge of ourselves, we will never create the life we want.

Coming to realisations of where you are in life due to past events, decisions you are making now, and how it can affect what you create next is the greatest knowledge you can obtain. It allows you to truly come to the understanding that your life has always been controlled by you. Taking accountability for the state you find yourself in will allow you to make the changes needed to drive your life to a new level.

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