Mixed Nation Community Question: Judy
Can we help answer Judy’s question in the comment section? How would you handle this situation as a parent?
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Depending on the age of your daughter I would explain her heritage first. Tell her how mighty it is. When you get to the negative part explain that we live in a world where every person is different. This includes their opinions about others. A person might not like you based on the outside but that is because they don’t know you on the inside. These people who have hate in their hearts can never know the amazing love she can bring to their lives. (if she is a daddy’s girl) tell her that he will always love and protect her no matter what.
when my children were small…. it was important to live in a mixed neighborhood… they always grew up around many cultures… went to school with children of many races… when we make the decision to marry or become involved with a person from another race or culture it’s our personal decision but has an impact on our children.. thankfully my kids are all great adults… and being mixed hasn’t stopped them from becoming independent, and proud of who they are…. live by example .. doesn’t mean you won’t make mistakes… that’s all part of it too.
My kids are mixed race but I am mixed nationality. My husband is Pakistani and so there is another layer of religion for my kids to digest. I can remember being torn between what nationality I was. Sometimes the deciding factor can be those around them. How other people (and that isn’t necessarily family) respond to them. We are currently living in a largely Lebanese area with a high Moslem population. My kids have been rejected as not real Moslems because they are not Arabic. I think for you the fact that you are open to your kids being involved in both cultures is more important. They will eventually find other people of the same race/culture as your husband. For me it was going to that other country to live for a while.
Growing up as in this case as your daughter (I’m half black and Im half white) my parents always explained that there will be some people that understand and some that don’t because noone ever taught them. My mother use to tell me and still does “Your are the best of both worlds” and its there lost that they can’t see how wonderful you are. I think once your child is filled with love from you and your husband, she won’t even notice that there are ignorant people who aren’t acceting. When I was bothered or worried, my dad would say “They are the one’s with the issue not you. You know who you are.” Once your head is up, she will be to busy looking at you, to look down. <3 Much love . P.S. I grew in a 98% black community,the caribbean and was considered the “White Girl.” In My mother’s family ( the white side) I was the “Black girl.”But to my parents i was always just beautiful and through all that confusion I’m very proud of who I am despite rejections from time to time. 😀
I have a family like that too. Some in which wanted my mother to abort me because I was going to be a mixed baby. Let her know that despite of what everybody thinks or says God made her just the way she is supposed to be. Somepeople have just been taught that was wrong, that is their problem not ours! We are human beings just like they are and we can either hate and resent them like they do us, or we can do what God wants us to do and love them anyways. They will have to answer to the hate and rage that they have not us. Hope I helped!